I don’t know who needs to hear this, but here’s a simple truth that the Left doesn’t want to hear: we don’t need LESS masculinity in this world…we need MORE.
Over the past decade, the Left has tried to villainize men at every possible turn.
They tried to label masculinity as “toxic” and they claim that all the wrongs of the world are due to men trying oppress and rule through the patriarchy.
They’ve made being a “man” one of the worse things on the planet, especially if you revel in that masculinity.
Of course, the only thing worse than being a male is being a straight male…and the only thing worse than that is being a straight White male…
But that’s a conversation for another day.
But despite their hatred for manhood, there’s a lesson the Left needs to learn about the importance of masculinity in the 21st Century.
In a TikTok post, a woman (I’m assuming gender here, but it does look like a woman, though with a more male-styled haircut) asks, “What does it mean to ‘be a man’?”
Immediately after is a response from a man that telling this young Millennial the truth about her question—and it’s such an epic response that we had to share it in its entirety.
THIS Is What It Means To ‘Be A Man’
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The unnamed man who goes by the TikTok handle @oneguysopinion starts his response by saying, “[Being a man] means that I am presumed to be the villain, that I am guilty of things that other men have done, that I have never done and they have never done in front of me for me to be able to stop them.”
Isn’t that the truth?
I’ve never hit a woman or slapped around a child. I’ve never abused my size or power, or done anything that warrants having the blame of the world laid at my feet.
When I see wrong, I try to right it—and to assume I and most other men don’t want to is a terrible way to go through life.
He continues, “It means at 18, I have to sign up for the selective service to be sent off to war that I might not agree with by a president I didn’t vote for.
It means I’m supposed to provide – work long hours, work overtime, work in dangerous conditions, and that my life is expendable.
It means I’m supposed to protect and respect women but I’m told that it’s just not enough to be a good guy.
That in order to stop bad guys it would require leadership, competition, and aggression—things that I’m told are signs of ‘toxic masculinity.’
It means that I address women as ‘ma’am’ – but I’m told by a woman in her twenties or early thirties that that’s insulting, that I’m calling her old…even though I call four-year-old girls ‘ma’am.’
It means I open the door for women and offer to carry heavy objects for them – but I’m told that’s being misogynistic and that I’m demeaning her as a woman by implying that she can’t do it for herself.
It means, while growing up, I was taught almost nothing about raising children and even if I’m in my 30s or 40s and have children of my own, my competency as a parent is questioned. And spending time with my own children is referred to as ‘babysitting.’ It means that kissing boo-boos, giving affection to my own child, or checking for a dirty diaper could be misconstrued as ‘sexual.’
It means, in divorce, I’m almost guaranteed to lose custody of my children, and my role as a parent can be boiled down to providing part of my income.
It means that in one of the main ways I am measured as a person is by how much I can earn, which can result in severe depression when I find myself unemployed or unable to earn enough…
A depression and feelings I was never encouraged as a boy to express. I was told to ‘toughen up’ and ‘man up’ – and that it was considered ‘girly’ or ‘weak’ to show those emotions.
And despite all those hardships, I’m told that I benefit from a patriarchal society that I no more helped build than the person saying that to me.
The examples I’m given of why we live in a patriarchal society is that 535 members of Congress are majority men, or that every president has been a man, or the majority of billionaires are men.
But all those men added up is less than 1,000 and I’m not a billionaire and I’ve never been a member of Congress. And those less-than-1,000 men have very little in common with the other 160 million men in this country.
But most of all, what it means to ‘be a man’ is that all of the things that I was taught to be: strong, a leader, a protector…are now referred to as ‘toxic masculinity’ by women.
Which confuses and troubles me greatly because everything I was taught as a young boy it meant ‘to be a man’ was taught to me by my mother. Which is also true for my friends who were lucky enough to have a father in their life growing up – they were mainly raised by their mothers.”
And We Need MORE Of It
All of this rings true for me and a LOT of men.
It’s not EASY being a man, just as it’s not easy to be a woman
It would be great if people—especially Leftists—kept this fact in mind.
We’re all fighting our own battles, and the vast majority of us are just doing the best we can.
The problem isn’t patriarchy…the problem isn’t men…the problem is weakness.
Too many weak people have been dictating what “strength” is, and they don’t have the faintest clue as to what it truly means.
We don’t need less masculinity in this world…
We need more.
And the sooner we accept this fact as a society, the better off we’ll be.
“A man’s ledger does not tell what he is, or what he is worth. Count what is in man, not what is on him, if you would know what he is worth—whether rich or poor.” – Henry Ward Beecher