“Toxic masculinity” is a popular term used by the social justice warrior crowd.
Recently, the American Psychological Association released guidelines for psychologists who work with men on how to work with those who have been trained in the art of “traditional masculinity ideology.”
Researchers break toxic masculinity down into three parts:
1) Suppressing emotions or masking distress
2) Maintaining an appearance of hardness
3) Violence as an indicator of power
It is true that studies have shown that some of these traits have been linked to aggression and violence, mental health, and substance abuse issues. It is important for a male to find someone to confide in to prevent problems from occurring.
However, the SJW crowd takes this to an extreme. They want to completely throw out the traditional role of men as breadwinners and protectors.
A recent article at “thelilly.com” perfectly captures the tearing down of traditional manhood.
“I’m a Millennial Feminist Dad”
The article is titled: “I’m a millennial feminist dad. When my wife wanted to go back to work after having our baby, I was surprised by my reaction.”
The subheading read: “Despite my best efforts, the patriarchy seeped in.”
Oh boy, here we go.
Or should I say, “oh girl”?
I don’t want to offend the social justice mob.
The article was written by Nicholas Padiak. Padiak is the stereotypical millennial that gives the rest of us millennials a bad name.
He whines about his high student debt and writing job, and bemoans having to work two jobs to raise a child.
The article begins with Padiak describing his time working two jobs to support his wife, who was on maternity leave. Good start. That is a good thing. He was helping support his wife while she was bearing their child.
Then she had the baby and wants to go back to work.
That was when he really screwed up.
What did he say to her that was sexist?
Answer: “Well, with any luck you won’t have to go back to work. I’m still working on getting us more money.”
Oh, the audacity!
How dare he.
Padiak realized his error when he said: “This was unlike me. I’m a generally supportive and caring husband, and I check as many feminist boxes in word, belief, and action as a cisgender, heterosexual white male can check.”
Come on, man.
How is wanting to support your family not being supportive?
He continued: “As my wife was telling me about her complicated emotions around going back to work, all she really needed from me was loving acknowledgment and kind commiseration. My white knight nonsense, while rooted in societal pressures, was misguided, unneeded and, ultimately, unkind. “
It might not have been the right thing to say. However, there is no need for him to hate himself for saying it. The term “toxic masculinity” derides men.
Even liberal Meryl Streep sees the harm in the term “toxic masculinity.”
Ms. Streep is someone for whom I have low regard for politically. However, on this one, I agree with her.
Streep said: “Sometimes, I think we’re hurt. We hurt our boys by calling something ‘toxic masculinity.’ I do. And I don’t find [that] putting those two words together … because women can be pretty f***ing toxic. It’s toxic people. We have our good angles, and we have our bad ones.”
That is true gender equality. People should be judged by their personal actions, not their gender. A male is not inherently more toxic because of his gender. There are bad men and bad women.
Males shouldn’t be called “toxic” because they don’t conform to the social justice definition of what a male should be.