The Millennial generation should be called the “me” generation because their personal emotions and desires supersede being of service to others.
Obviously, there are many good millennials, but the overall trend leans towards selfishness.
Platitudes such as “Speak your truth” and “live your best life” have become widely used by millennials.
There isn’t YOUR truth, there is only THE truth. Living “your best life” is another way of saying “do what makes you happy without caring for other people.” It is a selfish saying that matches the attitudes of many millennials.
It is a myth that “living your best life” will make you happy. Studies show that service to others, faith, and dedicated marriage are more fulfilling and make people happier.
However, this myth is still being perpetuated in the entertainment industry.
The latest example of selfish millennial behavior comes from Harry Potter star Emma Watson.
Watson is nearing her 30th birthday and is still single. Rather than seeking out a long-term partner, she has accepted her situation for what it is and come to terms with her singleness. That’s not a bad thing in and of itself. However, she’s not simply acknowledging that she’s single; she has rationalized being single by saying that she is “self-partnered.”
That’s right. She is now officially dating herself. It isn’t possible to be more self-centered than that.
Watson told British Vogue “I was like, why does everyone make such a big fuss about turning 30? This is not a big deal…cut to 29, and I’m like, ‘Oh, my god, I feel so stressed and anxious.’ And I realize it’s because there is suddenly this bloody influx of subliminal messaging around.
If you have not built a home, if you do not have a husband, if you do not have a baby, and you are turning 30, and you’re not in some incredibly secure, stable place in your career, or you’re still figuring things out… There’s just this incredible amount of anxiety.
I’m very happy being single. I call it being SELF-PARTNERED.”
She continued by saying, “I never believed the whole I’m happy single spiel. I was like, this is totally spiel. It took me a long time, but I’m very happy being single.”
Now, I can sympathize with her comments on the pressures of being 30 and still not having reached certain milestones.
In our society, friends and family start asking questions if you are not married and haven’t reached other specific milestones by the time you turn 30.
However, justifying not reaching those milestones doesn’t mean that someone should rationalize their lack of a relationship.
Her comment goes to a larger problem in today’s society: a lack of purpose.
It is easy to get lonely if a person doesn’t feel they have a purpose. Faith used to give people purpose, however, many people in the West have turned away from faith of all kinds.
That is not to say that a person can’t find purpose unless they go to church. If a person dedicates themselves to a noble cause or accomplishes a goal, that can make a person feel better about themselves.
Suicide should be considered a national health emergency. There has been a massive rise in suicides and more people kill themselves with a gun than there are homicides.
One of the reasons is that many of those who killed themselves felt that they were unmoored from a purpose in life. This is an epidemic that needs to be confronted head-on by society.
Self-partnering is not going to solve the problem. In fact, the attitude that created it is likely at the root of the issue.